Primal Rage
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Lovemaking: How to Open Your Heart
Powerful and passionate sex touches us like not many other things do. It removes us from our normal, controlled way of being, and allows us to release our senses, breathing, emotion, and heart. This can be so lovely and beautiful, but also disturbing or exposing.
If we can give in to our primal selves, our body's senses, our aliveness and our hearts, if we can truly making love, feelings come out. To really have great sex you need to open your entire self, and that includes your emotions, whatever they may be. If you want sex that is sacred, if you want to make love in a way that's divine, you need to truly understand what effect feelings and emotions have on your lovemaking.
Even if you are an expert lover, feelings can make or break the best sex, as you probably have experienced firsthand sometime. We must allow our feelings to play their role in sacred lovemaking, or no sensual know-how, Tantric technique or special energy exercise will have any real meaning. Fully opening into divine sexuality is all about trust. Without it, any knowledge or expert technique is in danger of remaining rote and mechanical.
The reason people don't have deep and fulfilling sex is many times because they do not trust this emotional movement. Yet the more we open sexually, the more the shadow side of ourselves will come up also - that is, the unlived, unresolved and unhealed parts of us, all the elephants in our rooms. This is especially dramatic in the case of trauma survivors, but it's true to some degree for almost everybody.
You cannot open just some parts of your heart. You ca not open just your "sexy, happy self" and keep other aspects hidden. If you try to do that, sex will be mediocre at best. If you want to reach the highest peaks, you need to be willing to go deep as well. If we do not resist this movement of emotion, then grace can open up within us. The analogy of this truth-that we must embrace our darker facets in order to transcend it-is the beautiful lotus blossom that rises out of the murky mud. Through loving sex we can heal our bodies, our hearts and our entire beings.
Here is an example: Robert had always been proud of himself on being a very capable lover, expert, even. And he had always enjoyed lots of sex throughout his life. However Robert is childhood had been very wearying; his mother was schizophrenic and so she was alternately neglectful and loving toward him when he was a child. To endure the hurt of such unreliable love, he learned to protect his heart and not let anyone too close. He had been in several relationships, which he thought were reasonably satisfying, but then one day Robert fell in love, truly, fully in love, like he had never felt before, and a disturbing thing started happening.
When Robert was lovemaking with his new partner, he could feel very sad old feelings of memories rise up. As he began to trust his new lover, he became aware of how his heart was hurt by those earlier events in his life. Being a strongly masculine male, he felt that to be a good lover he had to be strong at all times; he could not show weakness especially to his new love whom he was so anxious to show his best side.
When making love, when those vulnerable parts of him arose to distract himself from these feelings, quite unconsciously, he became more brute-like in his making love. This did not please his partner, Evelyn, because she could feel something was hurt in his heart. She started saying that his sex was mechanical and too rough. Evelyn had a natural and deep understanding of sacred sex and she truly loved him so she kept inviting him to be softer and to show her his vulnerable sides. With time the trust between them grew so much that he could begin to feel and talk about his hurt, and he could allow those moments of emotional pain to ripple through him as they were making love. He realized that it was not only ok, but that it made it possible to enjoy a depth of sensual feeling, pleasure and intimacy in making love that he never knew existed.
The body follows the heart; when the heart is open the body opens too.
Our great mystics and spiritual experts knew this. And our most famous poets down the ages often speak of this too: how joy and rapture are entwined with longing, rage, grief and despair. Embracing your emotions is going to improve your sex life, whether these feelings are joy, fear, bliss, rage, sadness or love. I mean this very literally.
Allowing emotions to well up while we're sexual is important for beautiful love making. Of course this contradicts the perfect picture of romance and scorching sex that we have in our heads. It's especially difficult when we consider that the feelings that might come up for us could be anger, fear, grief, or other less acceptable ones. Yet there's so much erotic juiciness held in emotions, so much intimacy to be gained from allowing them, often especially from the ones that we try to prevent because we consider them unfit for the bedroom.
It is this holding on to that makes sex be less then satisfying. When we don't allow feelings to well up in us, we go numb instead. All of a sudden, from one to moment to the next we don't feel anything where before we were quite alive. Men and women tend to react quite differently in this situation.
The mistake men often make is that they know something is not there, they can feel that sense of numbness, but they do not know why it came over them, so they go for purely physical gratification. They go for the orgasm. In the long term they may reach out for sex toys or resolve to learn some fancy new expert sex technique, or they ask their partner to go to an S'n'M club, and so on. These can all be great fun things to do but they might not give you what is missing.
Women often react in a totally different way. When women ca not feel and go numb they are done, they just lose interest in sex. They have the proverbial headache. And so they don't get the intimacy and passion that was possible either.
Next time feelings come up for you while you're making love, do not push them down, butdon't stop making love. You can do both: hold the love and the pleasure of the connection, and accept and welcome all emotions. If you can hold that much spaciousness you may find that your tears, anger, fear, guilt, or shame will soon transform into beautiful pure innocent sexual love energy, even turning into laughter.
For example, if you find yourself getting angry in the middle of lovemaking, tell your partner and ask them if it is OK to go with it. do not hurt each other. You can experience the energy of anger without hurting someone. You can growl, you can grunt, you can hiss. It can be a big turn on and a lot of fun! Enjoy it as energy and let this energy arise until it changes again. Great intimacy can be invoked if you both allow your emotions to flow freely as they come up during lovemaking.
I was working with a young couple that came to see me because sex hadn't been good for some time. After asking a few questions it became apparent that when the lovemaking got deeper, she felt anger rising in her. She felt the urge to hit her partner, push him away, and yet still make love with him. So we negotiated that she'd have permission to do exactly that, with two stipulations: she wasn't to hurt him in any way; and if she had the impulse to push him away he would hold her even more strongly instead, so she could feel his love. Both of them said that their sex life had never been hotter from the first time they tried this.
Ultimately it's the ability to surrender and to let go of control that makes for great sex. It is ok to cry or chuckle at the same time as you are in a passionate embrace getting close to orgasm. It is ok to growl and hiss or to tremble and shiver in fear. When you are willing to let your emotions flow, like clouds passing across the sky, and you feel safe with that, you come to trust that they make for scorching, beautiful sex. These feelings are like a thunderstorm or a rain shower that washes everything clean. Let your feelings be like the weather, do not avoid them, don't seek them out, just let them come and go.
It's not only the darker feelings that we fear. Many of us also fear being somehow "too much", and so what we often repress is lost joy, giggles, and rapture. Most of us carefully monitor the noises we make: we have acceptable sex noises and unacceptable ones, right? Of course it is good to be considerate of your neighbours, but whenever the circumstances allow, it's great if you can just let go.
If your partner is experiencing emotions welling up as you are lovemaking, you can be supportive by letting him or her know that it's ok. Giving and receiving permission is sometimes all that is needed to relax and let love flow through.
The reason I call this kind of making love a spiritual practice is because, like any practice, it involves developing certain muscles, certain abilities and skills over time. Just Like when you're not in shape and you start working out you do not become strong overnight, and in meditation practice it takes a little while to get the hang of it, so it is with sacred lovemaking. It takes practice to become better, and eventually, an expert. In this case you're developing the muscles to be able to be truly within your senses, the skills of being very sensitive and intuitive, the ability to be emotionally transparent, the skill of intimate communication, and trust and surrender. Your sense of sacred making love will grow with practice, and with time, you'll enjoy not only more pleasure, passion, love, and delight, but also the transcendental vibrations of divine rapture and ecstasy. You can open yourself to all that is sacred in life by learning to make love in this way.